We say a lot about our marriages by what we say, and do not say. Omissions are as important as the little snipes, or genuine praise. The omissions are slow to gather strength, but in the end there is a great body of emptiness which shows.
Aside from trauma to the people who are getting divorced, there is the trickle down effect to others, which is, I guess, as it should be. Eight couples over, twice removed, we hear about them and we anguish. Could this happen to us? How did it happen to them? After all these years, why now? Could we have helped? Watching the couple suffer is wrenching. Do we take sides, or can we be friends of both? Rarely do we say, "Damn, that was a good idea!"